Love Tip #10
“9 What is your beloved more than another beloved, O most beautiful among women? What is your beloved more than another beloved, that you thus adjure us?
10 My beloved is radiant and ruddy, distinguished among ten thousand.11 His head is the finest gold; his locks are wavy, black as a raven.12 His eyes are like doves beside streams of water, bathed in milk, sitting beside a full pool.13 His cheeks are like beds of spices, mounds of sweet-smelling herbs. His lips are lilies, dripping liquid myrrh.14 His arms are rods of gold, set with jewels. His body is polished ivory, bedecked with sapphires.15 His legs are alabaster columns, set on bases of gold. His appearance is like Lebanon, choice as the cedars.16 His mouth is most sweet, and he is altogether desirable. This is my beloved and this is my friend, O daughters of Jerusalem.” – Song of Solomon 5:9-16
One of the greatest ways to neutralize an argument when you are fearful, hurt, or wronged is to switch your focus off of the issue and onto what you love about your partner. This is an awesome perspective builder when you are caught up in the moment.
So don’t wait! Today, make a list of the things you love about your partner and why you are glad God gave him/her to you. Then, you will be prepared with ammo the next time you are in a conflict. You will be able to take a minute, reflect on that list, get perspective of your whole relationship and not just the immediate conflict, and address your concerns in a healthy way!
